Does Following the Rules (or Not) Affect Your Relationships?
Thursday, March 18, 2010 at 10:00AM March 16, 2010
By Arlene Harder, MA, MFT, Founder of Support4Change.com
IMPORTANT NOTE: Somehow the blog has gotten itself all mixed up and this blog entry should appear BEFORE the one on March 22. So if you come here and have already read this, please go to the blog titled Does Difficulty With Apologies Affect Your Relationships?. If you haven’t yet read this, do so and then go to the blog about apologies.
The questions today are simple and have to do with a topic we generally don’t talk about much, it’s the way in which some of us are sticklers for following the rules (perfectionists particularly) and others who rebel against rules. If you and another person are at loggerheads, perhaps that is one of your problems. How would you answer the following questions?
PART ONE
Exploring Your Personality # 15:
Following the Rules
ASK YOURSELF THESE QUESTIONS:
Would others consider me agreeable, conventional, conforming, suggestible, and/or indecisive?
Do I sometimes feel I understand others, but then realize I don’t because I’ve been too focused on pleasing them? If so, why do I think this is true of me?
Might someone say that I act bored, want to make a good impression, go by the book, and am nice but rigid, strong and silent?
What do the answers to these questions say about my relationship with others?
These questions complement the Better Tomorrows Program for healing strained and broken relationships and are part of the blog’s series of questions for exploring who you are.
To explore other questions, see Ask Yourself Questions and Change Your Life, Healing Relationships is an Inside Job, and the Q-and-A Club.
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PART TWO
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PART THREE
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