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<!--Generated by Squarespace Site Server v5.11.5 (http://www.squarespace.com/) on Thu, 09 Sep 2010 03:07:01 GMT--><rss xmlns:content="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/content/" xmlns:wfw="http://wellformedweb.org/CommentAPI/" xmlns:itunes="http://www.itunes.com/dtds/podcast-1.0.dtd" xmlns:dc="http://purl.org/dc/elements/1.1/" version="2.0"><channel><title>Home Page</title><link>http://www.support4change-blog.com/journal/</link><description></description><lastBuildDate>Fri, 28 May 2010 23:10:06 +0000</lastBuildDate><copyright></copyright><language>en-US</language><generator>Squarespace Site Server v5.11.5 (http://www.squarespace.com/)</generator><item><title>-</title><dc:creator>Arlene Harder</dc:creator><pubDate>Thu, 27 May 2010 18:27:36 +0000</pubDate><link>http://www.support4change-blog.com/journal/2010/5/27/please-update-your-bookmarks-and-readers-the-new.html</link><guid isPermaLink="false">96803:848966:7792901</guid><description><![CDATA[<h4 style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: 180%;">Please update your bookmarks and readers. </span></h4>
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<h4 style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: 180%;">The new address is:<br /></span></h4>
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<h4 style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: 180%;"><a href="http://www.support4change.com/blog">http://www.support4change.com/blog</a></span></h4>
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<h4 style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: 180%;">See you there!</span></h4>
]]></description><wfw:commentRss>http://www.support4change-blog.com/journal/rss-comments-entry-7792901.xml</wfw:commentRss></item><item><title>Discover Eleven Posts You May Have Missed</title><dc:creator>Arlene Harder</dc:creator><pubDate>Wed, 05 May 2010 19:56:32 +0000</pubDate><link>http://www.support4change-blog.com/journal/2010/5/5/discover-eleven-posts-you-may-have-missed.html</link><guid isPermaLink="false">96803:848966:7587976</guid><description><![CDATA[<h5><span style="font-size: 120%;">By Arlene Harder, MA, MFT, Founder of <a title="Support4Change   website" href="http://www.support4change.com/index.html" target="_blank">Support4Change.com<br /></a></span></h5>
<p><span style="font-size: 120%;"><span class="full-image-float-left ssNonEditable"><img src="http://www.support4change-blog.com/storage/magnifying-glass-250x173.jpg?__SQUARESPACE_CACHEVERSION=1272038705552" alt="" /></span></span>Since April 9, when I moved this blog over to a new one on the <a href="http://www.support4change.com/blog/">Support4Change website</a>, I&#8217;ve added eleven new posts. If you are still subscribed to <em>this </em>blog, rather than the <em>new </em>one, I don&#8217;t want you to miss these posts that range from the effect of perfectionism on relationships (April 13) to a challenge of speaking only from love for twenty-four hours (May 5).</p>
<p>PLUS, you&#8217;ll find three videos just for the fun of it.</p>
<p>Remember, when you click on the following titles, you will be going to the new blog format, where I highly recommend you bookmark the journal homepage or subscribe to <em>that </em>RSS feed rather than <em>this </em>one. Then you&#8217;ll be able to read all the great posts I am putting online three or more times a week (at least at the current rate).</p>
<p>To see what I mean, read the following and you&#8217;ll learn how you can enrich your life and enrich your relationships, which is the new motto of the new blog.</p>
<p style="text-align: center;"><strong><a title="Support4Change Blog" href="http://support4change.com/blog/" target="_blank">http://support4change.com/blog/</a></strong></p>
<h3><span style="font-size: 130%;">ELEVEN NEW POSTS IN CHRONOLOGICAL ORDER:</span></h3>
<p>1. <a href="http://www.support4change.com/blog/perfectionism/prefectionist-relationships.html">Prevent Perfectionism from Ruining Relationships</a><br />Notice how perfectionism can have a very negative effect on relationships.</p>
<p>2. <a href="http://www.support4change.com/blog/relationship-yourself/explore-who-you-are/philosophy.html">How Does Your Philosophy of Life Affect Your Relationships?</a><br />Discover how your philosophy of life has an impact on your relationships.</p>
<p>3. <a href="http://www.support4change.com/blog/relationships-others/questions/your-tribe.html">Who is in Your Tribe?</a><br />The strength of our identity with any group determines the extend to which we feel comfortable with, or separate from, others outside that group, or &ldquo;tribe.&rdquo;</p>
<p>4. <a href="http://www.support4change.com/blog/relationships-world/make-a-difference/ask-questions.html">Ask Questions, Make a Difference</a><br />When people are concerned, curious, courageous, and caring, they can make a difference in the world by asking themselves questions.</p>
<p>5. <a href="http://www.support4change.com/blog/relationships-others/thinking-deeply.html">Thinking Deeply Strengthens Relationships Better Than Shared Wine</a><br />Learn how thinking seriously about your life and the lives of others can greatly benefit your friendships and families.</p>
<p>6. <a href="http://www.support4change.com/blog/photo-journal/learning-video-production.html">Learning Video Production with Chinese New Year Photos</a> &mdash; VIDEO<br />View one of my recent video creations from Vegas Movie Studio about a trip to Las Vegas for the Chinese New Year, 2010.</p>
<p>7. <a href="http://www.support4change.com/blog/photo-journal/travel/hoover-dam-bridge.html">Checking Progress of New Hoover  Dam Bridge</a> &mdash; VIDEO<br />Since there isn&rsquo;t time to write a new post, here is another of my videos that I&rsquo;m learning to do. If you&rsquo;ve ever been to Hoover Dam and stuck in a traffic jam, you will be glad to know this bridge bypassing the dam is being completed.</p>
<p>8. <a href="http://www.support4change.com/blog/inspiration-motivation/saturday-marbles.html">I&rsquo;m Down to Six Marbles</a><br />Discover a visual way to remind yourself that life is short and needs to be enjoyed. Buy some marbles.</p>
<p>9. <a href="http://www.support4change.com/blog/relationships-world/political-social/truth-filters.html">What Narrative Do You Believe?</a>:<br />What is the narrative or belief that supports your opinions and actions?</p>
<p>10. <a href="http://www.support4change.com/blog/photo-journal/travel/quito.html">Enrich Your Life by Traveling to Ecuador</a> &mdash; VIDEO<br />In this short video, enjoy a visit to Quito,  Ecuador, the highest legal capital in the world, with suggestions for making it a memorable trip.</p>
<p>11. <a href="http://www.support4change.com/blog/relationship-yourself/questions-yourself/words-inspiration.html">Can You Speak Only Love for 24 Hours?</a><br />Notice the words we use that open our hearts to others and the words that others use to draw us closer to them.</p>
<h3><span style="font-size: 130%;">REMEMBER: Here is the new blog address:</span></h3>
<p><a title="Support4Change Blog" href="http://support4change.com/blog/" target="_blank">http://support4change.com/blog/</a></p>
]]></description><wfw:commentRss>http://www.support4change-blog.com/journal/rss-comments-entry-7587976.xml</wfw:commentRss></item><item><title>Moving to a New Format and Focus</title><dc:creator>Arlene Harder</dc:creator><pubDate>Fri, 09 Apr 2010 21:23:10 +0000</pubDate><link>http://www.support4change-blog.com/journal/2010/4/9/moving-to-a-new-format-and-focus.html</link><guid isPermaLink="false">96803:848966:7281713</guid><description><![CDATA[<h5><span style="font-size: 120%;">April 9,      2010<br />By Arlene Harder, MA, MFT, Founder of <a title="Support4Change   website" href="http://www.support4change.com/index.html" target="_blank">Support4Change.com<br /></a></span></h5>
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<p style="padding-left: 60px;"><span style="font-size: 130%;">Looking for the Support4Change Blog? On April 12, 2010, it moved to another template and another service. Now you can find it at:</span></p>
<p style="padding-left: 60px; text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: 130%;"><a title="Support4Change Blog" href="http://support4change.com/blog/" target="_blank">http://support4change.com/blog/ </a></span></p>
<p style="padding-left: 60px;"><span style="font-size: 130%;">See you there!</span></p>
]]></description><wfw:commentRss>http://www.support4change-blog.com/journal/rss-comments-entry-7281713.xml</wfw:commentRss></item><item><title>Risk and Motorcycle Helmets</title><category>Exploring Social and Political Issues</category><category>motorcycle helmet laws</category><category>personal development</category><dc:creator>Arlene Harder</dc:creator><pubDate>Thu, 08 Apr 2010 22:50:00 +0000</pubDate><link>http://www.support4change-blog.com/journal/2010/4/8/risk-and-motorcycle-helmets.html</link><guid isPermaLink="false">96803:848966:7256814</guid><description><![CDATA[Explore how the personal freedom to ride without a motorcycle helmets may create problems for others..
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<p><span class="full-image-float-right ssNonEditable"><span><img src="http://www.support4change-blog.com/storage/ranunculau-0134.jpg?__SQUARESPACE_CACHEVERSION=1270703944910" alt="" /></span></span><a href="http://support4change.squarespace.com/journal/2010/4/1/save-yourself-and-other-taxpayers-5957.html">One week ago</a> I started my blog with &#8220;ARRRGGUH!&#8221; If you read it, you will know my reaction was because the blog was not saving when I saved. Just got a little message that said somethng to the effect of &#8220;My Bad. Sorry.&#8221;</p>
<p>It happened again today after I finished a blog! There just wasn&#8217;t time to go back and do it again. Consequently, here I am at the end of the day ready to climb into bed and I am reminded of my promise (at least for now) to make my &#8220;practice&#8221; to write an entry five days a week.</p>
<p>So here I am writing that there&#8217;s nothing here for you to read.</p>
<p>I would end this with &#8220;ARRRGGUH!&#8221; again except that I have just finished watching two hours of &#8220;The Buddha,&#8221; a beautifully done program on PBS of the Buddha&#8217;s life, and was reminded that all things change. Even software that doesn&#8217;t work one day will (maybe) work the next.</p>
<p>So I&#8217;ve chosen as illustration a flower on which I just might meditate tonight as I fall asleep to accept this problem and look forward to starting over tomorrow.</p>
<p>May all your computer glitches be minor.</p>
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