Support4Change Blog

March 12, 2007 

Category: Lesson of a Recovering Perfectionist

By Arlene Harder, MA, MFT
 

Would you be terribly disappointed if I didn’t write anything in my blog for two weeks? Would your life fall apart? No? You’d actually survive? That’s a relief.

You see, I’m going to a conference in Washington, DC, on Wednesday and won’t have time to get to the blog ‘til the end of next week. So if you’re interested in what you’ve read on the blog, or on my websites thus far, please check back again in a couple weeks. I will have new things to say later and will have more questions to share from the Q-and-A Club.

If you are a perfectionist, as I have been most of my life, you will understand my need to explain that I have not abandoned the blog and that there will be something new down the road. We perfectionists, both before and after recovery, do a lot of explaining about why we can’t do something we think others expect us to do. In my case, explaining why I won’t have new material for awhile is fed by my fantasy that you will all come to the blog expecting to see something new, be terribly disappointed in me, and decide never to come back.

If that’s the case, I can’t do anything about it. Better to just chalk this up to a recovering perfectionist lesson about letting go, a lesson I’ve had to go through more times than I can count.

In the meantime, while waiting with baited breath for my return, if you want to read things I’ve written, you can always go to Support4Change, where you’ll find hundreds of articles to keep you busy in my absence and may find something of interest in the Special Features on that site. You may even want to read some of the Lessons of a Recovering Perfectionist if the topic interests you.

Now it’s time for me to stop this explanation of my need to explain. See you when I get back and have time to resume writing.