Support4Change Blog

February 5, 2010
By Arlene Harder, MA, MFT, Founder of Support4Change.com

After travel report number seven from our recent trip to Ecuador and Peru, you will find questions about creativity to help you better understand why the relationship between you and another person is strained or broken.

These questions are part of the “Exploring Who You Are” blogs, which complements the Better Tomorrows Program on Support4Change.com. For more information read Introduction to a Series of Questions for Healing Relationships.

Travel Report Seven:

Researching Sally Lightfoot Takes a Detour

NOTE: If you read the last blog on avoiding difficult situations, you will notice the picture I chose and the comments were on the creative use of towels. This picture, on the other hand, would better  illustrate the need to get out of difficult situations. I would have switched the travel stories except that I didn’t notice, so you can take a look again at the last blog to see evidence of some very creative crew members.

When I want to write about something we see on our trips I don’t know much about, like these colorful and ubiquitos crabs throughout the Galapagos Islands, I always check with Wikipedia to see if there might be an interesting fact or two to share. This time I came up with more than I expected because I used the wrong name. I thought they were called “Sally Golighty” and Wikipedia didn’t have any information about them specicifially, but I stumbled upon a v-e-r-y lengthy discussion about the way in which the website encyclopedia accepts and reviews entries. It went on and on and I suppose I could have learned a great deal from the discussion but it was clear they weren’t talking about what I wanted to know about my crabs.

Then I remembered that the correct name is “Sally Lightfoot,” which you have to admit is not too far off from Sally Golightly, who is, as I discovered, a singer of some kind who lives in London and perhaps writes her own songs. On her MySpace page she said, “I like cats and chocolate and DNA and that’s all.” It’s an interesting comment and I imagine she is an interesting person.

Okay, back to the Sally Lightfoot crabs. Wikipedia says that the shape is typically crablike, well, duh, and goes on to describe the movement as quick and agile, making it hard to catch. Since it isn’t considered very edible by humans, and only used as bait by fisherman, the crab has the run of the place, actually running on its toes among the rocks at the often turbulent, windy shore, just above the limit of the seaspray. It seems to cling well to any surface and darts out of the way if you approach.

The ranger said that the person who named the crab had a girlfriend at the time whose name was Sally Lightfoot and it seemed to fit. Wikipedia didn’t include that information and I don’t think I could add my comments or the Wikipedia police would consider my second-hand comment as unauthoratative.

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Category:

Personality

Topic 11:

Guilt

ASK YOURSELF THESE QUESTIONS:

What do I feel most guilty about in what I do or say? Why?

How do I express my guilt?

What rules of behavior do I most frequently break?

If an objective, kind observer were to watch me while I was doing these things, would he or she judge me as being as guilty as I feel? Why do I think this would be so?

If you want to explore other questions, see Ask Yourself Questions and Change Your Life, Healing Relationships is an Inside Job, and the Q-and-A Club. And then come back to the blog for other Exploring Who You Are questions.

© Copyright 2010, Arlene F. Harder, MA, MFT

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